Even when they screw up; perhaps especially when they screw up.
From Sam Harris:
“In your relationships with people–your spouse, your kids–your job, really, is just to love them. That’s your fundamental job. It’s not change them, improve them, coerce them into doing what you think they should do to live better lives.” (“Moral Illusions“, 58:00).
The Harvard Grant Study, published in 2017, is the largest ever conducted on human happiness. It took over 300 nineteen-year-old men and tracked them for 75 years to find out what factors produced happiness and unhappiness.
The number one factor predicting unhappiness, leading to failed marriages, career disaster, and early death? Alcohol use.
Other interesting tidbits from the study:
Aging liberals have more sex than aging conservatives.
Warmth of relationships matters more toward financial success than intelligence.
Warmth of relationships with mothers is correlated with financial success, work effectiveness, and less risk of dementia.