I’m not sure I buy the concept of “the one”, the soulmate.
I buy the concept of, “Let me get to know this person as well as I can.”
Sure, sometimes you’ll fall in love. Just as frequently you’ll fall out of love. Write songs about your love if you must, but it doesn’t make him the one. There’s no such thing.
Being in love can be difficult enough without adding the narrative that you’ll absolutely die without “him”. You won’t. There are lots of “hims”.