Living under my pop culture rock, I only recently learned what it means to be left on open.
This is a new rendition on an age-old problem, one that was addressed in the book/movie, He’s Just Not That Into You. This probably won’t come as a surprise, but I’ll say it anyway: It’s not his fault that he’s not into you. He’s just doing his best to get the hell away from you. You might hate his methods, and your anger might be justified, but you can’t argue with his end-goal.
Pain is universal, and your pain is your problem, not his.
Thankfully, if you accept the pain it cannot hurt you.
[Extra for those who have no idea what I’m talking about:
This post is about Snapchat. When you send a “Snap” to someone, which is often a picture of yourself, you can see a confirmation that it was “Delivered”. Then you can see if it was “Opened” by the recipient. When a Snap is opened there’s an expectation that you’ll get a Snap in return. If you don’t, you’ve been “left on open”.
My brother and I often leave each other on open, but that’s fine because it doesn’t occur to either of us that we don’t like or care about each other. But it can be psychologically devastating for a teenage girl to send a Snap to a boy she likes and get left on open.
It behooves Snap (the company) to allow its users to see the “Delivered” and “Opened” signs. It creates tension that’s only relieved by checking the app over and over again. More checking of the app means more exposure to advertisements, which means more profit for Snap.
If this all seems a bit immoral to you, that’s because it is. Any moral philosopher would object to profiting at the expense of psychological health.
If Snap really wanted to make the world a better place it would do something about this.]