How much does your future wedding ring need to cost in order for you to feel like your husband loves you?
$1,000? $5,000? Two months’ salary? At least the price of his favorite expensive gizmo?
Diamond wedding rings are nothing more than a story we tell ourselves; they have no intrinsic worth otherwise**. A jeweler won’t buy back your wedding ring because it’s not actually valuable.
The diamond engagement ring isn’t going away any time soon, and that’s fine if the story you tell yourself about it significantly improves your life. But if buying an engagement ring causes you financial stress–if you need to finance it, or if it extends the number of years you need to go to a job you hate–it might be worth revisiting that absurd, unspoken statement:
“Honey, this is how much you need to spend on an engagement ring for me to believe that you love me.”
[**In 1938, De Beers launched an ad campaign targeting men that said they need to spend two months’ salary on a diamond wedding ring. Before the 1930’s there was no such thing as an engagement ring. Diamonds are not rare or valuable in nature.]