Let’s not frame the issue around gender and genre.
Let’s frame it around professionalism.
When you’re in the workplace–in this case playing your sport–you’re either acting like a professional or you’re acting like an amateur. You either think and believe what a professional would think and believe, or you don’t.
The amateur believes thoughts like, “I don’t like her. She’s mean. I’m not going to talk to her. I want everyone to like me.” The professional believes thoughts like, “How can I help us accomplish what we need to accomplish? If some people don’t like me because I do what’s right and just, then so be it.”
Actions arise from thoughts which arise from beliefs.
It is shocking how many adults–folks in their 40’s, 50’s, and beyond–still believe thoughts that amateurs believe. It’s equally shocking when an 18-year-old arrives on campus a fully-formed professional.
Indeed, there’s a strong correlation between age and professionalism, but there are outliers in either direction.
You can become an outlier if you choose.